Financial Tips for the Sandwich Generation

Oct 12, 2016 ​

If you find yourself squeezed between caring for your children and caring for your aging parents, you’re part of what’s now referred to as the Sandwich Generation. It’s a scenario faced by nearly half of adults in their 40s and 50s, according to a Pew Research Center study. Here are some things you can do to help keep your finances on track while meeting family responsibilities.

Prioritize Your Own Financial Situation

As a key support for others in your family, it’s important that you also stay healthy— physically, mentally, and financially. Be sure that you don’t short-change your own financial goals, especially saving for your retirement. It’s also important to have a solid emergency fund of at least three to six months’ living expenses; since your obligations are greater and you’re entering a stage in your own life when it’s not unusual for health concerns to arise that can affect your ability to work.

Get a Handle on Your Parents’ Finances

Talking about money with aging parents can be awkward, but you’ll be in a much better position to help if you have a thorough understanding of their financial picture. This includes checking and savings accounts, but also things like insurance policies, pensions, and assets such as a home. If they own their home, or have significant equity, selling it could go a long way toward paying for their care needs if they have little retirement savings of their own.

Divide Parental Responsibilities Among Siblings

If you’re an only child, you may be stuck shouldering the entire load. But if you have brothers and sisters, be sure that each is doing what they can to help your parents.  If one sibling, for example, is not able to lend financial support, perhaps they can take the lead on care giving or dealing with parents’ medical issues. Siblings who live too far away to participate in caregiving could also be asked to contribute financial support.

Explore Student Aid for Your Children

Take into consideration that your children can get loans for college, but you can’t borrow for your retirement. Explore all options for student aid, including grants, loans, and scholarships. Having children pay at least part of their college costs also ensures they also have a vested interest in their education. Learn more about managing student debt in our Financial Library.

Don’t Forget the Tax Benefits

If you become financially responsible for your parents, you may be able to claim them, as well as your children, as dependents on your tax returns. If you are paying for their medical care, those costs may also be deductible since they are dependents. Also consider looking into the Dependent Care Credit, which is available to those who pay for child care or elder care while working.

Get Estate Documents in Order

Wills and advance healthcare directives are musts for both you and your parents, but it’s also a good idea to have a financial power of attorney prepared so you are able to step in and handle financial matters on their behalf. While these issues are always difficult to discuss, it will make things easier on everyone in the family if your parents make it clear in advance what their wishes are regarding final arrangements.

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